RELATIONSHIPS

Do you have difficulty making and sustaining relationships or get anxious and experience self-recrimination when you think you have done or said the wrong thing? Replay a conversation in your mind? Sometimes, do you overthink what you will say? Miss what your partner is saying? This may be due to social anxiety.

Maybe it’s hard to feel connected, and you feel overwhelmed. Do you sometimes wish you could get out of the situation as quickly as you can? This is more common than you think.

Maybe you get confused about what you said or did that has caused someone to back away. Do you feel rejected or on the periphery, unsure of why you are being left out or feel like people don’t like you or reject and abandon you?

Are you in a tumultuous relationship that feels like a roller-coaster? You might be happy and in love and then get insulted, rejected, and abandoned. Anger and confusion make it hard to know whether to stay or leave.

You may have a pattern of falling in love, getting bored, needing more than one partner, being critical, and abandoning your partner before they abandon you. Your freedom to do what you want may be more important than compromise because you are afraid of losing yourself, being vulnerable, and taken over and that intimacy makes you feel suffocated rather than nurtured. This keeps you from the happiness you want. I promise you, this is not uncommon and also not hard to repair.

You or your partner may have had an affair. Divorce may be the answer but working on yourself can lead to valuable insights that can change the dynamic in your relationship or other relationships if divorce is necessary.